I was just hoping to get some views on this matter. Whenever I approach a woman to talk with her, well be getting along great after a few minutes. But then after she gets an idea of how Im doing, she tends to get sort of shy and withdraws. I make in the high six figures, so, is that a turn off? Does…

I was just hoping to get some views on this matter.

Whenever I approach a woman to talk with her, well be getting along great after a few minutes. But then after she gets an idea of how Im doing, she tends to get sort of shy and withdraws.

I make in the high six figures, so, is that a turn off? Does a woman assume that a guy has a problem if he is comfortable?

Id really appreciate your views on this. Thanks to all who answer. .. riodejaneirofun2 @ yahoo.comUpdate:It didnt necesarily come up in conversation blantantly. They ask me what I do for a living, and I answer as descreetly as possible.Update 2:Actually the conversations are great. Its just that, when they ask me about my work, they KNOW that it pays well ( from my answer about what I do ) and it seems to be a little uncomfortable for them.

Perhaps Im in the wrong part of the country?As I mentioned, Im descreet, I do NOT actually give an amout of what I make. .. When they ask me what I do, I answer them, and then they figure it out from there.

Not I. I wont date them if they dont make good money, and Im never shy.

Personally, I believe its wonderful youre a man who has established a stable career with a more-than-decent annual income. But, I also admit that I would be insecure after hearing about your profession or knowing how successful you are in comparison. Or perhaps they dont want to convey the wrong idea that theyre dating you for your money. But I also think its this sense of pride that a woman has that she doesnt deserve you because she feels she needs to be up-to-par with you. Im intimidated by rich, wealthy people. I feel so lackluster in comparison and just knowing that I wouldnt be able to afford to live the same type of lifestyle that a person of a different class lives, it jabs at my ego and pride a bit.

Thats my personal take on why women might be taken back a little.

I dont think it is a matter of intimidation, we just get shy sometimes. Some women are just shy period. And others are sometimes a little backwards, especially after finding out your figures(as you put it), but more so, It almost sounds as if you enjoy this. You sound like you adore that fact that women will shy away knowing how much money you make. If you are truly sincere, then hold off with the money thing. Have you ever seen the movie were they would not talk about his job, until after he had the girl? It was a real good movie, and honestly I wouldnt want a man who showed off his money. Love isnt about money, as some people would think or even like. Good Luck, I hope you find the woman you are looking for.

You know a lot of these are cliche but I will be honest. I would be a little intimidated. I mean I would feel like I dont measure up to be with a rich man. Dont get me wrong I make pretty good money being 23 but not nearly that much. Besides I think some women have a problem with being kept by a man. I dont want to be with a rich man and when he wants some other chick he just kicks me out on the street, ya know. There is just something about eating caviar and going back to hot dogs that I dont like about that.

Wealth can represent a place in society, which might exceed some womens comfort level. If shes used to blue collared, lunch pail toting, get their hands dirty sort of men you wouldnt be her type.

And then some women might feel bought or kept if you are in astratospherically different income range. Lower income women might dream of the wealthy professional but are more comfortable with the cable guy sometimes.

My guess is however, that there more women who would consider you a catch.

Yes… to me it would be intimidating to a degree. I have never dated a man who made that kind of money & I wouldnt know what to say or do. I think its because there is such a fine line anymore between an independent woman & a gold digger. If I was to date you, it would be difficult because I dont come with such an income. But yet, I own my own business & live comfortably. So, therefore – Id be myself & expect you to be too. But if it came to going some place that was out of range financially for me Id feel awkward because I like to be able to pay my way… I think Im way too independent here! SSSHHHHHSSSSHHHH – I had no idea guys like you were out there!

A Very good question – that I find really kinda hard to answer!

Not all women are like that, personally I dont see the big deal in it at all. Especially women that are comfortable with in them selves, wouldnt be so concerned. Most women that are content with in their own lives will not have a problem with that. They will be women that already have the things that they need for the most part, and are not looking to put a feather in their cap.

Hey, what is the big deal. Id look at it like if your comfortable then so am I. Maybe dont be so quick to to share this information with them right off, let her get to know you better before you tell her that. Once she knows you she will be more comfortable with you.

What time did you say dinner was? lol, just kidding!

BTW: It would be better to get to know the woman so that you know that she isnt only interested in you for your money. There is more to a relationships than some one having money, and you want to know that the woman thinks more of you than that. You want some thing that will last you a long time, not some gold digger looking for a free ride in life.

I am a male, I have a six figure income mid 200s and not even my closest friends know this……If women shy away from you maybe you need to stop letting them in on you income they more than likely are turned off because they feel you are flaunting your wealth (I see no other reason why you would discuss your earnings so soon in a conversation). By the way WHY DO YOU mention your wealth a few minutes into the conversation…other than you are a jerk. Women want to know YOU, not your money, jeepers dude take some relationship classes if you are so wealthy, personally I do not think you make the money you say or you would not discuss it with ANYONE!

The shying away could be a few things – fear of life style changes, relocation and inadequacy. Some wealthy guys have given the wrong title to good guys that make a good living. Some rich boys treat woman badly, use their money to smooth over the humiliation that they may have caused the female (gifts and such)…faithfulness usually isnt a strong suit – girl at every port….

Your profession must be something else to shy them away – I dont think the money thing is the problems – sit back and rethink some of the things that you are saying to them and the why you hold yourself. Material things should matter if there is an attraction.

Perhaps you portray yourself as a wealthy person. Some people that are rich are very down to earth. It may be the way you mention it, either way, money doesnt matter in the end. Of course you could end up with a woman who wants you only for your money. Im not sure why the part about your job comes up so quickly. Thats certainly not anything that should be questioned in the first couple of dates.

I for one would prefer a man who is financially stable over one who can not hold a job. After all, I wouldnt want to have to support someone for the rest of my life. I am sure that you are proud of your job and finances, after all its an accomplishment, so enjoy – the right woman- the right time, and it will all come together.

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